41 Gigantic lessons from the book 'Good Vibes, Good Life' by Vex Kings

Self-love is the key to unlocking your greatness. And each one of us have all the power to improve our self-love, elevate our vibes and attract a great destiny.

In Good Vibes, Good Life, the author Vex Kings shares his experiences when his father died when he was just a baby, how his family was often homeless and he grew up in troubled neighborhoods, where he regularly experienced racism. Despite this, he successfully turned his whole life around. 

I, hereby, list down 41 gigantic lessons from this awesome book. 
These are the examples that stuck with me. 
I know that I need to keep practicing this learning day in and day out. 
These learning are worded and appended in a way that makes it easier for most of us to understand and absorb.

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Here you go...

(1) The good, the bad and the ugly events are all a part of who I have become.

(2) We cannot define where greatness begins or ends. We can only strive to become better.

(3) Stop trying to impress people. Impress yourself, stretch yourself, test yourself. Be your best version. Outdoing yourself is your daily task. You are competing with your version of yesterday.

(4) Self-love is all about first accepting yourself unconditionally and then making positive changes to become even better. Same way, you can love any of your family members - accept them unconditionally, and encourage them to be even better.

(5) The vibrations we put out, are always pulling in stuff that is vibrating at a similar frequency - just like tuning into a radio station. So, if you consciously start feeling joyful, you will attract more of it. The common misconception is that you will start feeling good only once you have what you want. The truth is that you can feel good right now, and also attract more of it.

(6) Staying around positive people, when you are down, is an excellent antidote to absorb some of their positive energy, then start radiating that positive energy yourself and thus attracting more of it from the universe. It is much easier to see the good in life when you are around positive people.

(7) Smile more often. Even if you fake a smile, you can trick your brain into thinking that you are happy, and thereby releasing feel-good hormones called endorphins, which make you feel better in return.

(8) Most judgments start from hatred, which is a low vibrational state. It only leads to attracting unpleasant experiences in our life.

(9) Greatness starts with being grateful. In order to truly feel grateful towards any particular thing, imagine your life in its absence, as deep as you can think, and you will soon realize how grateful you truly have been.

(10) Meditation is easy. It is all about listening to life - breath, sounds, colors around us at this very moment.

(11) Your longest relationship in life is with your own self. If you can manage this relationship well, give it the importance it deserves, can you manage other relationships well.

(12) If someone says that they are hurt by your actions, then you must believe what they are saying rather than ignore their viewpoint just because you did not feel anything hurting in what you said. It's because you have violated their personal values. Accepting that they are hurt will change your behavior to empathy.

(13) All relationships require work. They require tremendous understanding and endless communication. In spite of all this, they can be very challenging. None of us is perfect. So, no relationship is perfect.

(14) You will know that it is your soul talking to you when you arrive at the answer without going through the reasoning process. 

(15) Everyone's perspective, including our own, is limited and subjective. It is based on what we gather and process from all around us. So, be open to learning a new perspective every time you meet someone.

(16) There is no way you can avoid negativity in your life. The more people you are connected with, the more negativity would be thrown at you. But no one can hurt you without your permission. The best response to negativity thrown at you is silence and joy. This will make the haters feel that they are banging against a wall that does not respond. They will hurt themselves and refrain after some time.
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(17) You cannot please everyone, neither you should even attempt it. Do not be too harsh on yourself.

(18) Your purpose is not to be in a job you dislike for the rest of your life. Harmful workplaces push us into an unhealthy mental state, leading to an unhealthy physical state.

(19) You won't be important to all the people all the time, and that's why you have to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. 

(20) You have done things some people said you could never do. You have also done things even you thought you may never be able to do. Appreciate yourself. Pat yourself. Go out and celebrate.

(21) Either way, you are going to be judged, whether you live your life on your own terms, or other people's.

(22) Embrace your uniqueness. Are you considered weird? Awesome.

(23) Forgive yourself for all the bad decisions you made, for the lack of belief, for hurting others and yourself. Forgive yourself for everything. Important is to move forward with a better mindset.

(24) You cannot expect others to be kind to you if you are not kind to yourself. 

(25) When you forgive people for past mistakes, you cannot, and do not improve the past. You improve your present and future by creating positive vibes. Forgiving someone is for your better life.

(26) You cannot move forward with the thoughts that hold you back.

(27) Once you mute the noise of the world, you would realize that there is nothing that you cannot do.

(28) If you cannot change the situation, change your perception of it. That is where your personal power is. Take charge.

(29) Your job is not to get rid of negative events or negative thoughts - you cannot. Rather, your job is to improve your response to these events and thoughts.
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(30) Just one positive thought early in the day can produce a significantly different outcome by the end of the day. This is in line with the butterfly effect where butterfly flapping can cause minute weather changes, which, over time, can have a significant impact on the weather far away.

(31) Repeating affirmations is like feeding coding instructions to your subconscious mind. Once the code is fed in, then the subconscious mind will run them automatically, and do anything to fructify the instructions.

(32) Things are easier when you are in the mood to do them. But if you are looking for a greater life, you have to commit yourself to the same effort even when you are not in the mood. Commitment to your dreams, therefore, is the greatest virtue.
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(33) Achievement of goals leads to the release of happy hormones in the body - one of which is dopamine. If you break up a bigger goal into smaller ones, then more goals are achieved as a natural bi-product of the bigger goal, leading to more dopamine release, which is good for you.

(34) One glass of alcohol usually costs more than a book. Which one is more likely to change your life? People usually invest in the wrong places.
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(35) Just because you cannot see the point behind a challenging time does not mean there isn't one. The past cannot be changed, but our perception of the same can be. This belief in a good reason behind everything allows us to have a positive perspective of the past, and therefore allows us to build a positive future.

(36) Some of the best changes in life result from some of the most painful experiences. Pain is good.

(37) When you are praying for a situation to change, remember that you are in that situation so that you can change. Everything is connected. Everything has a reason.
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(38) Working 5 days a week to search for those 'free' 2 days is such a waste of life. A greater life of purpose is definitely possible.
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(39) Chase your excitement without any conditions. You don't need to justify what you are doing if you are excited about it. You just have to do it. If you follow your excitement, the universe will throw more exciting things at you. Eventually, your excitement will turn into your profession.

(40) Make money to assist you, not to complete you.

(41) There is unlimited money available. Limitation, thus, is a product of your mind.

Hope these 41 gigantic lessons will help shape up your thought process to some extent and help you manage your life better, and fall in love with yourself - yet again.

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Manoj Arora
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